Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Truth and Dare

Truth: I intended to blog more this month than I have, and I'm working on improving that now.

Dare: I took up the dare to create a weekly newsletter, so my writing time has been going into that, with a mini-blog in the newsletter each week. Hence, my absence here. So now I double-dog dare you to join my mailing list if you enjoy what I babble about here. ;)

Anyhoo...
 
Over the past week, I've had several people thank me for being "clear" in sharing my thoughts and responses. I tend to take notice of things when they happen more than once, and today it gave me pause when the third person specifically thanked me for being clear.

Being the perfectionist, I immediately started to wonder...am I not normally clear in my communication? I always aim for being completely clear, especially as I spend most of my life teaching and writing. Being clear is very important to me - right up there at the top of the list. Miscommunications cause all kinds of problems and I work hard to avoid that sort of thing. So what's going on?

Then I scanned through posts on Facebook. I noticed that some folks are really starting to put themselves out there and state very clearly and explicitly what their thoughts are. There's always a few posts that have the feeling of simply repeating rhetoric, but others have had this genuine, heart-spoken, truth to them. I found those posts so refreshing, so empowering!

Then it hit me. I spent time last week really focusing on who I am and what I want out of this life. I made some decisions based on the calling of my heart, and since then, I have spoken my truth. I've turned down some opportunities so that other doors could open, and indeed they have. I've stated clearly what I wanted and didn't want. I was honest with myself and others about what commitments I could make and what I couldn't. Not only did I say it, I meant it...it was my truth, and I stated it respectfully and from my heart. Not only were my words clearly communicated, so was my intent. 

When we speak our truth, there are no pretenses. Just us, the bare essence of who we are, with nothing to hide. To be honest, it's a vulnerable place to be....it's daring. Judgment from others can quickly make us want to run and hide or waffle in our decision to show who we are and stand in our choices. When we decide on Truth, we dare to be all that we are, and we dare others to accept us as we are. It's scary, yet empowering and so much simpler to be ourselves!

Truth: speaking my truth is still quite a new and shiny way for me. I've always weighed other people's opinions of me very heavily. I've been swayed when I should have stayed and stood still when I should have moved. It's time to walk my talk, on a regular basis, tripping as I may at times.

I guess being in my mid-40's has given me the wisdom to realize that it's just far too complicated to pretend to be something I'm not. And I don't know how much time I've got left here on this earth, so I'm gonna spend it doing the things I love with the people I love. I love to spend my time with people who speak their own truth and will lovingly hold me to mine.

Any "mistakes" I make are just things I need to learn. It's all part of the truth of my life: the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful, the klutzy and the graceful.  

Here's wishing you all the strength to stand in your own truth and dare to be all that you are, in all your wisdom and beauty and grace and share that with the world. I dare ya...

Love & Light,
Sue
  

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